Why is self esteem important at all?
Self esteem means confidence in one's own worth or abilities. Self respect could be another word used to describe self esteem. It is
your self regard, self pride. Self esteem and dignity are intertwined. Your self esteem effects your morale.
If you want to feel good about yourself, from within, what you need is self esteem.
So, why is self esteem important? It is so others can be nice to you and feel proud of you.
Self esteem and spiritual healing go hand in hand. If you believe you deserve it, you can and will have it.
Now that we have defined self esteem to some extent and discussed why it is important, let's talk a bit about spiritual healing.
Spiritual healing means getting healthy without external medicines or any physical actions.
What is self esteem?
Would you like to be respected? Would you like others to think of you in nicer terms? It begins with you treating yourself nicer than you have been. Self esteem runs parallel to self respect. It is the confidence you have in your own worth and abilities. It’s a feeling that you have within yourself of what you are worth and what you are able to do.
If you say you can’t, you are right. When you say you can, you are right too. No one other you can tell you what you can and cannot do, have, say or feel. This is your truth and no one can take you away from it, unless you give them permission to.
Spiritual healing is a process I underwent to take care of me. I actively engage in my daily practices for my spiritual healing. This helps me live a life free from external intervention, whether it’s drugs, medications, alcohol or any other external forces that could control my life. Healing myself daily helps me help others heal. The journey began when I believed I deserved it. I was eighteen then.
Self-esteem is an integral part of the human psyche that makes us want more. This wanting could be internal or external wants. Maslow’s hierarchical laws state that after fulfilling our basic needs of food-clothing-shelter, man aims for status. This wanting things for status is the beginning of what seems like an upward growth but is in fact a downward spiral for the soul.
The wanting, craving and needs for external artifacts, experiences and relationships are never ending. It tires our soul, exhausts our mind and contracts our heart. As our needs get out of control, they morph into greed. Our greed keeps us going and it is usually for things that make us feel good for a while. This is called the honeymoon stage. As soon as the newness wares out all we are left with is “stuff”. Things, titles, relationships that brought us joy for a fraction of time, are now our responsibilities and we are its custodians, in other words, care takers.
Responsibilities are a nicer term for burdens. They weigh heavy on our shoulders, which hurt, so do our arms and necks. Back aches, hip issues, knees, ankles all hurt or grow weak from lack of real fun being outweighed by responsibilities. It’s all died to what you believe you deserve.
Self-esteem is when you believe you are more than what you own and do. Self-esteem when strong makes you believe you deserve peace, joy, happiness and love. When you enjoy a healthy self-esteem, no matter how hard you struggle today, it will make you want to do less with external intervention and more of inner work. You will crave spiritual healing.
Spiritual healing will help you get and feel better and live a simple and comfortable with grace, ease and fun – effortlessly. It helps you align yourself with your soul’s purpose. It takes you back to a time in your memories when everything was possible just by wishing for it. Spiritual healing makes dreams come true just by your thinking of it. Yes, life turns magical and you turn into a miracle in the life of others, merely through your presence.
All you need is the desire supported by a belief system that it’s possible. You don’t need to be a religious person or have a certain God or gods or gurus in your life to live a life that is profoundly simple. Yes, it all helps, but they are merely gate-keepers. You don’t need to sign a contract or get married to one of them to have a happier, healthier, safe or loving life.
You need to work on your self-esteem and trust that the journey of spiritual healing begins and ends with and in you.
“Wisdom is knowing I am nothing,
Love is knowing I am everything,
and between the two my life moves.”
― Nisargadatta Maharaj
The ultimate state of spiritual healing is knowing that you are both everything and nothing at the same moment in life. My spiritual mother Amma Sri Karunamayi quoting the sacred scriptures from India states that “if you can’t see God in all, you can’t see God at all.” To this I will add “first find the God in you and then see it being reflected back to you in whatever crosses your visual field.”
You are me, I am you – that is my truth. To arrive at this truth, my journey began a few decades ago in this lifetime. It can for you too, when you decide to let go of codependent living and work your way to independent living. You have to believe you deserve a better life that what you are surrounded by right now.
The answer is within you, your subconscious mind, the place where your inner child who wants to roll over and play, resides. To get in touch with it and begin your journey of self-healing, all you need is the desire to increase the calibration of your self-esteem.
Living a life without comparison on contrasting it with anything external. Your internal barometer can easily tell you how good you feel about yourself. Try to make it a little more today than it was yesterday. Treat yourself better today than you did yesterday and you will attract more love and joy in your life today than before. Let this continue. As your self-esteem grows, your need for external stuff will reduce. Isn’t that healthier and happier way to live?
Working on your self-esteem on your own might seem hard but it's possible. As always, alone, together we can make it happen. To learn more sign up for a clarity call with Coach Keya.
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