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Last Updated On:  May 21, 2020

Venus retrograde: 3 ways to avoid emotional overload

By Coach Keya

If today is between - May13-June 25th 2020 - it’s happening now as you read it. It's time to dismantle the old and start anew.

Venus in sky

Photo by Aleks Dahlberg on Unsplash

Venus retrograde, in other words, means it feels that Venus is moving backward in space when seen from Earth.

Venus rules love, values, and beauty. Love could be your relationships, emotions, and feelings. Values are your preferences – things you do not like and do like.

Retrogrades aren’t times for rainbows and butterflies. These are times to slow down and take a closer look at aspects of your life.

Since Venus feels like it’s moving backward, your emotions, relationships, and preferences will feel more connected to the past.

Relationships and feelings that you thought you were done with will revisit you. Friends from the past show up and you enjoy reconnecting. Things with an emotional attachment that you had not considered for a while surface in your conscious mind.

This is not the best time to begin a new relationship of any kind. When you do, a theme from the past will repeat itself.

In my model of the world, every relationship I have with another is a reflection of my relationship with that aspect of me.

e.g. if you a starting a new job, a boss or a colleague might remind you of a boss or colleague from the past that you were either fond of or didn’t get along with.

Music, food, or fashion from the past that you have not considered for a while, will show up and you might enjoy it all over again or indulge in with pleasure.


I was born during a Venus retrograde so dwelling in the past is a theme of my life. When everyone seems to be in a hurry to move on or ahead, I love to linger with shadows from my past.

During times of Venus retrograde, I am in my element as I witness the struggle of my fellow human beings.

Water is emotions, and it is overflowing.

Yesterday a dam burst in Michigan. This morning Amphan, a severe cyclone, landed on Bangladesh and the eastern coastal states of Bengal and Odissha in India.

An ideal way for self-care is through introspection

Learning to love yourself is a lifelong journey. It's never too late to get started. 

Love begins with understanding the situation and the self. This is followed by acceptance and finally forgiveness of the self.

Understanding and acceptance

This involves familiarizing yourself with possibilities and being mindful of your limitations. Anyone can do anything but not everyone will do everything. Ego says one thing and life proves something else.

This is a fine balance of ego and truth and learning to maintain this balance is what mindfulness is all about.

Forgiveness, a journey towards freedom

Forgiveness isn't for anyone else. You free others so you are not tied to them anymore. You forgive yourself so you can free yourself from suffering. Forgiveness grants you freedom from feelings that don't serve you.

Release that feeling with grace and ease. When you forgive someone you free yourself. They still have to deal with the karmic load of their words and action. You only learn not to take part in someone else's story. That's a great leap in the learning to practice self-love.

When you do this during the time of Venus retrograde, you don't have to deal with these set of skeletons in the closet. How's that for "what to do during Venus retrograde?"?

Driving in reverse

It might feel like driving in reverse, revisiting people, and placed you loved and the things that were important to you. It's about completing old conversations because your focus is on moving on.

Venus Retrograde could feel like driving in reverse no one wants to go through that. You get to revisit what you loved and old values. Completing incomplete conversations with the intent to move on feels like a theme.  This time helps you detach from old emotions and complete old emotional contracts if you choose to.

In the end, it goes back to where we began - let go of the old values and relationships that have run their course so you can begin self-care and self-love.

If you are a do-it-yourself this should help, but if you would like to talk about a do-it-with proposition, let me know.

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